Making new friends in an unfamiliar place

Missing family and friends is the number one reason that causes people to return home within six months of moving abroad. It goes without saying that you will miss people, but the question is less about whether you will get homesick, and more about how you will cope.

When you move abroad, you are making a conscious decision to do so. No doubt you will have weighed up the pros and cons of such a big commitment, so regularly reminding yourself of the reasons you chose to move in the first place (better quality of life, amazing new job etc.) may help reassure yourself that you've done the right thing.

Relocating to another country doesn't mean you will never see your friends and family again; if anything it gives them the incentive to come and visit you on a regular basis. Time spent with them will be much more appreciated, and will make you value those people even more.

One way to make the sadness of missing friends and family easier to deal with is by making friends in your new home. But firstly you need to make the decision that you actually want to make friends. This may seem obvious; however without having made this conscious decision, finding friends will feel like a chore. Below is some advice on how to make that initial connection.

- Join an exercise group, sports club or walking group; you will meet people and improve your health at the same time.

- If you are in a foreign speaking country, join a group to learn the language. This gives you the opportunity to meet others who may be new to the area and also to engage yourself in the local community.

- Find a hobby or class that you are keen on. You will find classes listed in your local paper or on the internet. These are a great way to meet people and give you an instant topic of conversation and common interest.

- Arrange an event such as a barbecue and invite your new neighbours. It’s always good to know the people who live close by, and you may be surprised how many others are also wanting to make new friends.

- If you have children, get to know some of the other parents at your new school. Often schools will have social events for parents,but striking up conversation at the school gates is a tried and tested option.

Whenever you are feeling lonely or missing friends from home remember: you are not alone. There are many others who feel exactly the same the way you do. There will always be people in the same position as you, also looking for new friends, so go on, get out there and socialise!

Helen lock